It seems as though my last blog caused quite a stir.
When I made the statement that forgiveness is hard, that did not mean that I haven’t given in to forgiveness. Because I very well did give into forgiveness.
I was stating that distance makes the heart grow fonder because forgiving is easier that way when you keep your distance.
As a human being, you need time to grow apart from someone.
Chances are if you are being hurt by someone, then it was someone that you’ve grown close to, and that is also someone that you need to distance yourself from for the time being.
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Now that I got that out of the way, I want to discuss the next step….
We all know how we feel in a situation when it arises. The question next is, what’s the other side of the story?
We see our side as the victim in a horrid situation, and it’s up to us to learn the power of forgiveness. What about the other person? Did we listen carefully to the other side of the story?
While I was angry with a friend. I spoke to someone that was friends with both that person and I. What I found out from this mutual friend was that my betrayer had her own issues.
She was insecure and was fishing for compliments. If it wasn’t compliments she was fishing for, she was looking for confidence.
I never understood why this person would say things that they thought would please me. I couldn’t understand why this person was just not being herself.
It’s because she doesn’t know how to be herself.
So much time’s passed and life has happened, that this person just let others dictate her life. She never knew how to live her own life…
She had to live similarly to me. Only, I didn’t have the excess baggage the way she had, so living my life would just be out of envy.
As time went by and I learned the power of forgiving, I now understand the other side of the story.
My friend and I aren’t on speaking terms although I did try to rekindle the friendship.
Some things are just not meant to be.
In other news, I will be ready in a few days or so to make some new video blogs.